BEFORE 30 DIARIES

Often times I get paralyzed by my own fear, fear of success, fear of losing the comfort and fear of risks. I start a project and have it all layered out but when it comes to execution, I'm suddenly thrown into self-sabotage, the "what ifs". What if no one supports me. What if I fail. What if its not perfect. Here is my personal favorite, quite unusual too. What if I succeed too much that I become detached. I'm not saying it's my personal favorite because I have accepted that I do not want to succeed. No. I say that because attachment to me is addition. What if I become too obsessed with making money?  Oh my God I'm laughing at that last line as I type this. My mom today, 16th June asked me probably for the 10th time what do I want to do. I sat there tea in my hand grinning like an idiot while also praying for her to change the subject, so I said to her I wanna make money. She said "you have the tools what's stopping you?" In my head I gave her a ...

I cannot seem to remember when exactly did the approval of others started to matter to me. When did I all of a sudden get shy and embarrassed. Why did I stop being a child?. Now that I think of it, I do remember.  It's a family gathering and my mother just went out to an event with a friend, she probably thought because there's family everywhere then her babies are safe, loved. It's true, we were loved and protected.  But for an energetic child like myself, something was shifting. The look of scorn here and there, that said sit your ass down or go play outside.  I looked outside and no child was my age and the young but older kids were playing together. But I'm too young for older kids, too old for younger kids.  There's a chance that I panicked at the thought that I'm alone, nobody wants to play with me. Could it be that when I danced in front of the adults they only clapped because mommy was there? They clapped because i was the shit, or that because they were...

Mothers are akin to pillows, they make life easy and comfortable and at the end of the day we seem to be leaning on to them for support. These are the life lessons my mother taught me, I hope they can change your perspective on life for the better. 1. Fun is endless — Monate hao fele Mama said it is okay to want to focus on other things and put off "fun" for sometime, because no one is waiting on you to start having fun and, you don't get to wait on anybody else to have some fun. This taught me to be creative with my time. 2. Education has no Age limit — Thuto hae tsofalloe My mother is always looking for ways to improve her skills and gain knowledge this I admire about her. She believes that it is never too late to start learning and that education can sustain you for life like, when you feel like starting over, your qualifications are something to fall back on. 3. Wait your turn — Ha re le batho, ha re phele ka ho tsoahana She taught us to never compare ourselves to oth...

Have you ever had a nagging feeling that you're being watched, certain you're being followed? That sense that something is just wrong? Well—it could be that your intuition is right, listen to it. In a world where safety often feels uncertain, you need a proactive plan to protect yourself and your sanctuary. 1. Self-Awareness When you go out to groove, know your limit. You can't Uber or walk home without your senses and if you’ve had too much, wait until you’ve cleared your head. It goes without saying: Don't drink and drive. 2. Personal Protection Tools  Your handbag should always include a travel-sized pepper spray, an okapi(for protection purposes), and a panic button or whistle.  Beyond tools, consider taking up karate or kickboxing lessons in your spare time. We love a lady who is prepared to defend herself! 3. Home Security  If your front door doesn't have a peephole, install a door camera so you always know who is on the other side. Add extra door bolts to pre...

Starting a new job can be overwhelming, but remember to give yourself the grace and time needed to truly grow comfortable in your new surroundings I had started a new job on christmas week as a security officer . So locked in I didn’t get to celebrate my birthday. Two months have passed and it's safe to say I survived. Here's how you can also survive those first weeks of a new job . 1. Do what you know. Your skills and knowledge got you the job, it's time to follow instructions and do your work accordingly.  Always ask if you're confused, it's better to look slow that incompetent. 2.  Plan the days ahead . How you look and act at work represents the company. While your skills speak for themselves it won't make sense as to why you're always late, disheveled and incompetent. Plan your outfits for the whole work week, if you wear a uniform. Keep them clean and ironed. Use a planner and write down all you'll need for work.  3. Make Nice NOT Friends   Your co...

Crochet Slides By Shazzy In a world full of big brands and fast everything, supporting small businesses and local creators is one of the easiest ways to keep our communities alive — and honestly, it feels good knowing your support actually matters. The best part? You don’t always need money to make a difference. Sometimes it's just a tap, a share, or showing up with good energy. Here’s how you can support the people behind the talents, one simple action at a time. 1. Low-Effort, Big Impact Support These are the “I’m on my phone anyway” actions — fast, free, and incredibly powerful. • Engage online Like the post. Drop a comment. Share it on your stories. Save it. Every little action boosts them in the algorithm, and trust me — creators feel it. • Leave a review A short, honest review on Google Maps, Facebook, or any platform they use can instantly boost their credibility. Businesses grow faster when people trust them. • Spread the word Tell your friends, your work bestie, your cousi...